Rethinking Gender and Parenting: Why Caregiving Isn’t Just Women’s Work

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What are gender roles?

Gender roles are defined as society’s concept of how men and women should look and act (Wade & Ferree, 2023). So when people think of roles tied to a certain gender, like “women are predisposed to be nurturing,” they are not born that way. Gender roles are learned through patterns of socialization.

Doing gender refers to how people express themselves through actions, behavior, and societal norms (Wade & Ferree, 2023). An example of doing gender is when a mom stays home with children while the father works. Both people are conforming to social expectations of women’s and men’s roles.

An example of gender roles can be how parents view moms as caregivers and dads as providers. This isn’t untrue, but it doesn’t apply to all parents and can be damaging to the understanding of different parenting roles.

Who did you grow up with as caregivers? Do you think this affected your perception of parenting?

A large chalkboard mounted on a clean classroom wall, meticulously filled with a hand-drawn gender-neutral diagram of caregiving roles: interconnected circles labeled with tasks like cooking, childcare, emotional support, and elder care, arranged symmetrically around a central circle titled “Care Work.” Colored chalk arrows point in all directions, deliberately avoiding gender symbols. Below the board sits a minimalist desk stacked with sociology textbooks, printed journal articles, and a small digital voice recorder. Overhead fluorescent lights and soft window light blend to create balanced, even illumination, with realistic chalk dust smudges visible. Photographic realism, captured straight-on with sharp focus throughout, conveying a professional, academic atmosphere appropriate for an educational lesson.

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Two contrasting doorways in a quiet apartment hallway, each door painted a different muted tone: one a soft grey, the other a pale blue. On the floor before the grey door lies a neat arrangement of household tools—cleaning supplies, a meal prep container, a calendar filled with color-coded tasks. In front of the blue door rests a briefcase, a toolbox, and a stack of policy reports on family leave and labor. Diffused afternoon light from an unseen window falls across the scene, creating subtle shadows and a photographic, documentary feel. Shot from a slightly low angle with the doors following the rule of thirds, the mood is reflective and neutral, prompting viewers to question traditional divisions of labor without showing any people.

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A man and young boy hold hands walking down a sandy path toward the ocean at sunset.

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